My boyfriend was exactly like this, he was really nice the first couple of months, but when sex came into the picture, I told him I wasn’t ready … he started saying I was frigid to everyone as well as every time we saw each other, he’d hit me more for the stupidest reason. — Quote from ThisisAbuse message board


Abuse is never OK. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself. There are different forms of abuse but if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it is possible you are in an abusive relationship.

Signs of abuse

  • A partner pressuring you into having sex
  • Trying to control you by checking your phone
  • Getting angry when you want to spend time with your friends
  • Calling you names and spreading rumours about you
  • Threatening to share images or videos of you without permission
  • Forcing you to do things by hitting you or physically hurting you
  • Sexually assaulting or raping you

Abuse can destroy your self-confidence, have a negative impact on your health and well-being and leave you feeling isolated and lonely. Nobody deserves to be abused. It is far better to be single than to have a partner who abuses you.

We’re here to help if you are struggling with any of these issues, so call our anonymous, confidential helpline on 020 8317 8273 for information and help.