Abuse in a relationship comes in many different forms, but it is mainly when someone tries to control, intimidate or hurt their partner or family members. This is never OK.

It is also not OK for anyone to experience abuse whether they are victims or witnesses. Research shows that abuse in the home affects children, whether they see, hear or just know about it. Child abuse is most often linked to partner abuse.

Signs of being abusive can include:

  • family members showing fear of you, finding you hard to talk to or feeling they have to do what you want them to,
  • controlling behaviours, such as checking your partners phone/emails,
  • getting angry and jealous when your partner wants to spend time with friends,
  • calling the person names and/or threatening them,
  • hitting or physically hurting the person in some way,
  • forcing or pressuring the person to have sex or perform sexual acts.

If you recognise any or many of the above, it is OK to ask for help. Contact our local, confidential helpline on 020 8317 8273.

You can also find out more information about the help out there for perpetrators of domestic violence on Respect’s website.