If you are experiencing domestic abuse, it may be possible that you don’t see it as abusive. Someone on the outside of the relationship may have a completely different perspective on the situation which may help you identify what is actually happening.

The following situations are clear warning signs that you may be in an abusive relationship.

  • Your partner gets angry or upset with you repeatedly and says they’re sorry afterwards without changing their behaviour
  • Your partner stops you from leaving the house, either physically or by demanding you fulfil certain requirements before they will let you
  • Your partner does not let you say no to sex or engaging in sexual activities
  • Your partner physically forces themselves on you and proceeds to rape you
  • Your partner punches, slaps, strangles, kicks or throws household items at you
  • Your partner verbally demeans you by way of insults and mocking, either to your face or to others, both in the same room as you and elsewhere
  • Your partner actively works to sabotage your relationships with others, be they of the same or opposite sex
  • Your partner is reckless with the safety of you and your children, such as driving drunk or otherwise irresponsibly
  • Your partner frightens or hurts your children
  • Your partner spends an inordinate amount of the household budget on items or consumables for themselves, leaving you and your children without food or other necessities
  • Your partner restricts your movements and insists on always knowing where you are and with whom you are speaking

If any of these behaviours are familiar to you, call our confidential helpline on 0208 317 8273 and talk to us directly.