Seeking help as an abused man can be hard. You may feel that there is nowhere to turn or that no one will take you seriously. Perhaps you are ashamed about what is happening or feel like you have done something to deserve it. You may be worried that people will think you are less of a man for “allowing” yourself to be abused. You may also have concerns about the impact on your children, if you have them.
You have the right to be respected and live in safety. You are not alone. Many men experience abuse at some point in their life. It is not your fault. Domestic abuse is against the law and you have exactly the same rights that you would if you were a woman.
What you can do
You cannot change your partner’s behaviour but there are professionals and organisations that can help you re-establish control of your life. Recognising and accepting that you are being abused is the first, important step. The next step is to break your silence and isolation by contacting an appropriate organisation or speaking to someone you trust.
You can call our local, confidential helpline on 020 8317 8273 for information. There are also other national organisations that can help you.
SurvivorsUK helps men who have been sexually violated and raises awareness of their needs. Sexual violation includes both childhood sexual abuse and adult sexual assault/rape.
Helpline: 0845 122 1201 Monday & Tuesday 7- 9.30pm, Thursday 12-2.30pm
Men’s Advice Line
Offers advice and support for men in abusive relationships, both those experiencing violence and abuse from partners, and concerned about their own violence.
Helpline: 0808 801 0327