Abuse in a relationship comes in many different forms, but it is mainly when someone tries to control, intimidate or hurt their partner or family members. This is never OK.

It is also not OK for children and young people to experience abuse whether they are victims or witnesses. Research shows that abuse in the home affects children, whether they see, hear or just know about it. Child abuse is most often linked to partner abuse.

Signs of being abusive can include:

  • family members showing fear of you, finding you hard to talk to or feeling they have to do what you want them to,
  • controlling behaviours, such as checking your partners phone/emails,
  • getting angry and jealous when your partner wants to spend time with friends,
  • calling the person names and/or threatening them,
  • hitting or physically hurting the person in some way,
  • forcing or pressuring the person to have sex or perform sexual acts.

If you recognise any or many of the above, it is OK to ask for help. Contact our local, confidential helpline on 020 8317 8273.

Break the cycle

DVIP is running a local Domestic Violence Prevention Programme for men who have children, are Greenwich residents and have been violent and abusive towards a partner or ex-partner.

The programme is for any male parent who acknowledges that his behaviour towards a female partner or ex-partner has been violent and/or abusive at times and wants to work towards stopping those things from happening again.

The free 26-week group programme (2.5 hours once a week) helps participants address their anger, manage their behaviour and improve their parenting and relationships with partners. Support is also available for partners (including ex-partners) and parents and carers of perpetrators. You can find out more about DVIP here.

If you think you would benefit from attending the Violence Prevention Programme, you can refer yourself. A professional may also refer you. Please contact the DVIP Violence Prevention Team on 020 7633 9181 for more information and an assessment.

The service is confidential, although if any concerns regarding another person’s safety arise, additional professionals may be involved to ensure the person’s safety. All men attending the programme will need to consent to their partner or ex-partner being contacted.